Loving Him Without Losing You

How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself
Loving Him without Losing You

With every man I have dated since I was 17 I have completely lost myself in my romantic relationships. I have neglected my jobs, family and friends.. I have definitely neglected my health, drinking too much, partying too hard and later regretting it. Whatever he was doing at the time I fell into. This is something I needed to work on in my life. Turn it all around. I needed to realize that being in love wasn’t everything. Well, more like being in love with the wrong man. I would jump into a relationship without first getting to know that person. What did we really have in common, partying, sex, and more partying? I was going nowhere fast.

I came across this book on my favorite web site (Paperback swap.) It’s called
“How to Stop Disappearing and Start Being Yourself; Loving Him without Losing You" by: Beverly Engel. I was in a relationship at the time (we’ll call him S.P.) and I found myself losing me again. I stopped working on my Blogs, I stopped reading, I didn’t spend much time with family members. Spending more time with him than the time my son needed me to spend with him. All I could do was day dream-about Him when I wasn’t with Him. This book helped me to put the brakes on, step back and take a deep breath. I think S.P. started to feel smothered also. So we decided to take a two-week break from each other. Well, it wasn’t a full two weeks, but we’re not seeing each other as much as we used to. I spend a lot more time with my son and I think we are both happier.